As Men Struggle To Keep Up, Some Women Pose The Question: Who needs them?
Outperformed in school and, in many cases, the workplace too, men are increasingly being seen as a “problem” – especially when it comes to forming families. Women prefer men who are equally if not more accomplished. Trouble is, there aren’t enough such men to go around.
By Bettina Weber TAGES-ANZEIGER/Worldcrunch
ZURICH — Things are going badly for men – again. In Germany, an article published in Zeitmagazin has created a furor because the author, a woman, described the 30-year-old men in her age group as Schmerzensmänner. By this she meant the men are childish, oversensitive, self-centered and so focused on “finding themselves” that they haven’t got a clue about relating to women. In short: men aren’t guys anymore – they’re needy softies.
The article unleashed a flood of letters and comments from readers, hit the blogosphere big-time, and even inspired one actual male to present his side of things – and ask for understanding. The heated discussion made one thing very clear: men are increasingly being seen as a problem.
Lists of criticism include such items as: never grow up; refuse to accept responsibility; don’t help enough around the house; emotionally stunted; mamma’s boys; and overly dependent. Even sociologists and researchers are sounding alarm bells, saying the main problem is the lack of role models. The Berlusconis, Schettinos [Francesco Schettino, captain of the Costa Concordia cruise ship] and Schwarzeneggers of the world aren’t exactly helping the situation, so it’s no wonder, say the experts, that there is no such thing as a new, modern man.
Failing to make the grade
While women are advancing with giant strides, men appear to be falling behind. In school, boys need a lot more help than girls to get through – although, interestingly, successful female students still tend to be credited for their “hard work” and “discipline” rather than “talent” or “intelligence.” What’s even more interesting is that the reaction of many boys to girls being better at school is that good grades are “girly” and uncool – the feminine being perceived as inferior and thus not worthwhile.
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