The Best Cities for Single Women

April 18, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Online DatingThe editorial staff at ASW’s SMALLMAGAZINE  wrote the best top ten cities in the world for single women. These are their picks!

10. Tokyo, Japan

Better educated, wider travelled and higher earning than ever before, ladies here aren’t rushing into marriage or children any time soon. Nicknamed the parasite singles by the older guard and blamed for the shrinking population, they’re advancing their careers and letting men know that the kimonos are off. Just not literally. Moving here means avoiding the crush of Spring weddings, an abundance of single men looking for a lady to say yes, and all the trappings of a group of friends with disposable income. If that sounds like your cup of miso, Tokyo’s where to go.

9. San Francisco, California

The most number of cupcake shops per capita in the US and the second lowest obesity rate. Clearly climbing all those hills transforms you into ’that girl with the glutes’ even with a devil’s food addiction. And the city is bursting with single men. Granted 15% of those can be struck from the list of potentials immediately – given the flourishing gay community – but that party-hard posse make perfect wingmen in the meantime. Plus Mount Tamalpais State Park, with 6300 acres of wild grasslands, is just 20 miles away and provides a speedy escape from the ding of the trolley bell.

8. Zurich, Switzerland

A fast-paced financial centre in a quaint package. You’ll find pristine streets, pathologically punctual public transport, urban sailing on Lake Zurich, and close proximity to the Alps and some of the world’s best ski resorts. If you’re looking for a trendy hipster with tattoos and skinny jeans, look elsewhere, but if the suited and slick upwardly mobile are your (Gucci) bag, try the city where everything runs like clockwork.

7. New York, New York

Nail spas on every corner, brunch being very much a thing and generous pay packets (it’s home to 40 Fortune 500 HQs), the city is a haven for the single woman. The men are international, ambitious and reliably forward, and the social scene is easier to navigate than many other big cities as the transient locals are always looking for new friends. But be warned: while the NY dating scene is thriving and you’ll never have the same night – or man for that matter – twice if you don’t want to, the male:female ratio is unfairly skewed in the men’s favour. And you’re competing with a whole country’s worth of women wanting to make it big in fashion. What we mean is: prepare to feel inadequate on the regular.

6. Paris, France

Take an art course, go to the opera, cycle around with a baguette and brie in your basket – the cliché activities for a lady in Paris are endless and easily achievable. As for the men: they’re frequently perfectly groomed and be-cuff-linked, plus they value their women as much as their quality of life. The laughable 35-hour workweek is glorious enough in itself, but the increasingly neglected art of chivalry is very much alive as well.

5. Austin, Texas

This offbeat Texan town has been described as the capital for creative singles. It boasts high quality, low cost accommodation, and for those with entrepreneurial aspirations, was ranked best city to begin your career, due to a supportive venture capital environment. And on top of year-round sunshine, according to a Marie Claire survey, the single man to single woman ratio is 12:10. We’ll take those odds.

4. Milan, Italy

Fine wines, fashion and unabashedly persistent men: Milan seems to have it all. Nicknamed the New York of Europe, it has the liveliest job market in the country, energy-efficient and government-funded urban regeneration programs and a welcoming social scene, primarily made up of well-tailored men with slick haircuts. Talk about having your panna-cotta and eating it too.

3. Melbourne, Australia

Named the world’s most livable city by the Economist, Melbourne is distinguished by its cultural and artistic scene. But what makes it a secret woman’s paradise is the inexplicable discrepancy between the attractiveness of the sexes. It’s not uncommon to see a bronzed column of man wander by with an somewhat average woman on his arm. One who decided to ditch the beach and eat meat pies instead. We’re not claiming that this is the case across the board, but looking around the impeccably groomed ladies of Manhattan, we’ll take our chances in Melbourne.

2. Stockholm, Sweden

Sweden is the first ranked egalitarian country in the world
Alternated paid maternity leave, unisex bathrooms (minimizing excruciating ladies lines), equal TV airtime for male and female sport, and the creation of the first female friendly car, which includes a dent in the headrest for ponytails. Plus, according to one study Swedish men do more housework than anywhere else. So if you dream of settling down with a Scando who can simultaneously serve a Smorgasbord and give a Swedish massage: Stockholm’s got them in stock.

1. Shanghai, China

If you want to get statistical in finding a man (and let’s face it, if you’ve tried online dating, you already have), consider this: in 2020 there are predicted to be 24 million single men in China. Given Shanghai’s cosmopolitan nature and increasing number of multinational corporations, guys are flocking here. And there’s little not to love: ballroom dancing on the street, champagne brunches, even 24hr street teddy bear vendors for low-cost cuddling. And if the dating game grows tiresome, head to People’s Square Marriage Market on a Saturday to meet a mate.

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Millionaire looking for a Barbie with a career. Alpha women need not apply

October 26, 2012 By 4 Comments

I was reading the nation’s newspapers online when I came upon the story of Mr. Greenfield, (in the picture) a millionaire securities trader from Long Island. He has brought a lawsuit against the matchmakers he hired to find him a love match because they all failed to do so. Even though for the past 12 years 6 different agencies have set him up with over 250 ladies, he contends that the agencies and matchmakers haven’t done enough to help him find the “woman” who meets his exacting standards: beautiful, thin, smart, Jewish, a sense of humor, with a career, and from New York — but not “an alpha woman.”

His basic complaint is that he paid top dollar for nothing. He has so far been set up once with a Knicks dancer (when he’s not the NYC type of guy), matched with “West Village girls” (who were too artsy), and had one girl where he said her “looks” were terrible.

The matchmakers have fired back saying he was hard to please because he was too picky. They would give him exactly what he wanted many times just for him to come back with some reason so minuscule because that person wasn’t perfect. Even the girl he deemed to have terrible “looks”, was, in reality, too good for him according to the matchmakers.

He went on a date with a Ms. Gordon who is in her early forties, is Jewish, attractive, thin like he wants, not an alpha woman, and has a job. In summary, she fits his requirements. She thought they connected well on their date. They both love to travel, he told her he wanted to take her to Paris and London, they talked about their Jewish heritage; but he never called back to follow up on their second date. She said she thought he might have been holding out for a better deal, but it was hard to accept that he was looking for someone 15 years younger than he was. It made her sad and depressed and it hurt her. She thought even though she  wasn’t in her 30’s, she was still closer to his age and could even pop out a kid if he wanted. It could be done.

Mr. Millionaire from Long Island needs a reality check. He sounds so narcissistic. From the 250 plus women he had a choice of, he couldn’t find one? What is the common denominator here? Sounds like it’s him. Sounds like those 250 plus women got lucky that he rejected them. It’s nice to know what we want when we’re buying a property (whatever that may be: a piece of land, a house, a car, etc.); however, when you’re looking for a partner to marry, having a life, or making children, the criteria should not be THAT rigid. Expecting perfection is a recipe for failure because we’re human beings and are, therefore, not perfect. In my view, the way he’s looking at this is not so much that he’s looking for a wife, but that he’s looking for some arm candy and another possession. Although he likes “smart,” no smart woman will want to stand for that.

I also think Mr. Millionaire needs to re-think his standards of beauty. If he takes into consideration that he’s average looking (I’m being nice, so don’t beat me now), perhaps he should give up a bit on the looks department; because when you’re looking for Barbie, you better look like Ken … and he is no Ken. Looking for his dream woman is unrealistic as his dream woman only exists in his dreams (and he has found that out already: 12 years, over 250 women, and he’s still alone). I think he’ll have a better chance to find the woman who will give him the house, the kids, the dog, and the white picket fence if he’ll go for an average looking woman who may be a teacher, a bank teller, or a personal assistant who lives in the suburbs and is not too young for his age. He needs to forget the career and exceptional looks altogether.

Good luck to him whatever he decides to do, but I have never seen a smart, young, beautiful, thin, Jewish woman with a career, living in Manhattan that is not a driven, alpha woman. That’s why she has a career.

The problem comes when we set out to look for perfection (and in this case, the perfect woman will also be looking for the perfect man). But to me, the crux of the matter in this case is that I hope the courts won’t recognize his lawsuit. If they do, I think this country has a much bigger problem than it knows.

 

 

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Commitment is hard for people who watch TV romances

October 22, 2012 By 1 Comment

By: Megan Gannon, News Editor
Published: 09/18/2012 09:20 on LiveScience

Belief in TV Romances May Hurt Your Love Life

Are you a sucker for romantic shows and movies like “Pretty Woman?” Turns out, the more people believe in these unrealistic portrayals of romance on TV, the less likely they are to be committed to their real-life relationships, a new study finds. However, those who fell for TV love stories reported being no less satisfied in love than their more skeptical peers.

In the study, 392 married individuals were surveyed about their relationship satisfaction, expectations and commitment, as well as their belief in television portrayals of romantic relationships and viewing frequency. For instance, to indicate their acceptance of fictional romances as truths, participants rated their agreement with statements such as: “Television presents romantic relationships as they really are in life;” and “Television helps me understand what I can expect from my romantic relationships.”

Romantic TV shows included: reality shows like “The Hills” and “Bachelor;” soap operas such as “Days of Our Lives;” romantically themed movies such as “Pretty Woman,” “The Notebook” and “Sleepless in Seattle.”

The participants who had higher belief in TV romance were less likely to be committed to their current relationships and more likely to be drawn to alternatives to their current partner, the research found. (Alternatives included a different partner or being single.)

And the more the participants believed in the TV romance, the higher they rated both expected and actual relationship “costs”, which included their loss of personal freedom and time as well as their partner’s unattractive qualities. But that finding might help explain why greater belief in TV romances did not also predict lower relationship satisfaction.

“People with higher belief in television portrayals might see their relationships as more costly than their lower belief counterparts do, but because they also expected higher costs they are no less satisfied,” the researchers wrote in the paper.

The study was published last week in the journal Mass Communication and Society. Its author, Jeremy Osborn, of Albion College in Michigan, said it could shed light on how TV influences our relationships in ways we hadn’t thought it could.

“We live in a society that perpetually immerses itself in media images from both TV and the Web, but most people have no sense of the ways those images are impacting them,” Osborn said in a statement. “The rate of marriage failure in the U. S. is not dropping, and it is important for people to have a sense of what factors are leading to the failure of so many relationships.”

 

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It’s never too late to fall in love!

October 15, 2012 By Leave a Comment

I think Ms. Waitt article is cute, so I asked permission to share. So here it is.

By Cynthia Waitt

Love is fabulous at any age, but being an older bride last year at 54, who had been at the altar twice before, did present some challenges. As I successfully worked through those challenges, I’ll lay out a few ground rules for the older bride or even the older groom. See if these don’t make some sense…

1. SAY YES TO THE DRESS – This is important. It’s your day, even if it’s not your first day, or second. You don’t want to say “bride” too loudly, but you want something that makes you feel beautiful. I spent so much time going back and forth on whether to order the gold mid-length strapless dress I loved that my 29-year-old son took my credit card, filled out the form and pressed the send button.

I still wasn’t sure it was right and I was worried about the “strapless” part of this perfect dress, although now, having spent more than I could afford, I was stuck. Then something strange happened on plane back from New York the day our film “Bully” opened in New York. I don’t usually hang out with major designers, but some of my family do, and two of them showed up that day on my brother’s plane. As I was sitting across from Naeem Khan himself and his beautiful wife, Ranjana, I decided to take the risk and show him the dress. He studied it and pronounced it fitting, as did his beautiful wife, who as I found out later, rocks strapless dresses all the time. The day of my brother’s wedding, (yes, the dress did appear twice that summer), Naeem actually approached me and said, “The dress looks fabulous on you, and you’ve accessorized it perfectly”. I decided I could now die a happy woman. So, find the right one and die a happy woman.

2. BE CREATIVE IN YOUR CHOICE OF OFFICIATES – This is also important. I’m a lapsed Episcopalian and I was married twice by the same priest. At the second one, he politely suggested that this be the last he perform. Fair enough. I was happy with the justice of the peace and two witnesses, but my mother, who thinks you aren’t really legal until a priest steps in, wondered if our priest (different guy this time) couldn’t just say a blessing. My husband is Jewish, not particularly religious, but he balked, and rightfully so. No priest, unless we had a rabbi too, he pronounced. As the rabbi was not available on the day chosen, and because it was starting to sound like “A Priest, A Rabbi and a duck go into a bar,” a judge it was and all was well. So, consider your options — in California, anyone can do it for $25, perhaps a ship captain, airline pilot? I do like the unusual best though. My personal favorite was a gay Wiccan wedding performed by a tarot reader wearing a vintage 1935 dress. That’s absolutely true, you couldn’t make that one up.

3. DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT A DOUBLE WEDDING – I bring this up because we had an unusual situation in our family, where my brother and I got both married within 3 weeks. Some poor unsuspecting person who knew that thought it might be a cute idea to do a double wedding. I pulled out my Blackberry, did a quick image search and showed her the other Waitt bride of 2011 — tall, blonde, stunning, 30′s and on the cover of Maxim magazine, and said, “Would you stand up next to this?”

4. CONTROL THE PICTURES – I really like my camera. It’s a good one, but it tends to be somewhat soft focus (a must for older humans being photographed). I considered a pro, particularly when “Bully” director Lee Hirsch told me he would be in town on the date of my wedding. But Lee likes to film up close and personal (watch his films) and I can’t hold up to that at my age. He does do a fine job of photoshopping, as he has done for me, just on his own. “C-Way, I photoshopped you in this one….”

Also, ban all other cameras. Don’t you hate those people who come loaded and ready, shoot really horrendous pictures of anything and anyone, and then post them on Facebook? You don’t want that kind of thing to live forever. Ban their cameras or better yet, ban them.

5. IF YOU ARE EVEN CONSIDERING SOME SORT OF COSMETIC PROCEDURE, REMEMBER….MODERATION IN ALL THINGS – You don’t want to look like what my brother calls “wind tunnel” ladies. Watch the botox! If you get too much, your eye droops. Mine did. That’s why I’m standing so far back in the pictures. Overlarge sunglasses could help with a botox overload. So again, control the photography and if you need extra help, Lee could do some photoshopping. However, now that he’s such a big shot, you couldn’t afford him. I couldn’t either.

6. HAVE IT THE WAY YOU WANT IT – Don’t let anyone tell you where to get married, how to get married, or who to marry. If you are consenting adults and old enough to know what you are doing, do it, and don’t worry about what the neighbors think. Remember, it’s about love, and because it’s about love, it’s not wrong. And, in love, like most things, it’s also never too late.

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Penis size matters

October 14, 2012 By Leave a Comment

I heard that when a man have a nice size, slightly plumper and a few inches longer than the average, it is pretty nice but when the equipment is too large, it doesn’t always fit and it can be painful. The problem comes when the gentleman who owns the large equipment thinks that just because it is large, all he has to do is show up. That’s lame. At the end of the day, my non-official survey says that “there are guys with cruise ships that can’t dock worth a crap, and then there are the little guys with kayaks that can take it upstream. Whatever the size, it’s gotta be attached to the RIGHT GUY to make any kind of difference to a woman” Willa O.

According to LiveScience Online Magazine:

Contrary to the reassuring catchphrase “size doesn’t matter,” penis size may matter in bed — but only for some women, and for certain types of orgasms.

A new study finds that women who have frequent vaginal orgasms are more likely than other women to say they climax more easily with men with larger penises. Women who tend to prefer penile-vaginal intercourse over other types of sex also say the same, researchers reported online Sept. 24 in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Read more here 

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Cheating Secrets: 57% Sleep With Partner And Lover In Same Day

October 10, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Ever wondered what goes on behind the nation’s closed doors? Or rather between the nation’s bedsheets, behind those closed doors?

A survey revealing the secrets of Britain’s adulterers has shown that an enormous 57% have slept with both their spouse and lover in a 24-hour period.

The research was conducted by AshleyMadison.com, an infidelity dating website whose tag line is “Life is short, have an affair”.

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Are we happier now?

September 24, 2012 By Leave a Comment

The latest essay coming out on the Atlantic.

The Weaker Sex

How the new gender economics has more and more professional-class women looking at their mates and thinking: How long until I vote you off the island?

By SANDRA TSING LOH

Today’s women have achieved a goal that social commentators have inveighed against for centuries: economic in­dependence. Railed The Times of London in 1868, in opposing property rights for married women: “The proposed change would totally destroy the existing relation between husband and wife.” An American letter-writer declared in 1903:

“The wife who has her own income is thereby rendered a poorer wife [and,] feeling independent of her natural protector, she becomes more critical, less lenient to his faults and failings.”     click here to continue reading

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When did you know it was over?

August 7, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Surfing the Internet for stories on the heart front, I arrived at Reddit.com and read about its editor and founder Dante Lesnie, coming back from a business trip just last month, early in the morning (6:30am) and upon sitting on his couch (he didn’t want to make noise and wake his wife and the kids), he received an odd text message “thanks for staying over babe. I love sleeping next to you”. Since he had just arrived home, that led him to believe that he had missed his wife’s lover by just a few minutes. Ouch!!

his original post here

Apparently, after denying any affair, by telling him it was a girlfriend who spent the night, the wife finally confessed to cheating and told him, he missed the lover by 15 minutes. She has not only cheated on him but used the family finances to fund the swing lifestyle she wants and to take her lover to fancy places. Double Ouch!!

one of his latest posts

I feel pretty terrible for him. I think he’s not only feeling betrayed and angry but probably feeling very much helpless, with the prospect of losing his home (kiss that one goodbye) and being separated from his children. I hope he has not only a great divorce attorney but a shrewd one as well! He’ll need it.

 

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British woman has an interesting condition.

August 6, 2012 By Leave a Comment

An attractive, blonde British woman is very courageous in my view. To go on live TV and reveal on a talk show that she has two vaginas and turned down a $1 million offer from a porn production company, is not for the faint of heart. I sure would keep that information to myself but she had no problem sharing that with the world. It may help other females with the same condition. Kudos-to-her!!!      continue reading

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e-loser.com … lies people tell online!

August 1, 2012 By Leave a Comment

The Lies Everyone Tells on Dating Sites

Finding love online isn’t easy. The prospect of meeting Mr. or Ms. Right seems to turn everyone into porn star used car salesmen. Luckily for you, dear dater, Vice’s Brian Moylan knows exactly what everyone’s lying about.

Romantic relationships are just a litany of lies. “Sure, I’d love to see a Katherine Heigl movie.” “No, it’s not creepy at all that your dad touched my thigh like that.” “I swear I never fucked that chick. We’re just, like, you know, friends.” But before you shack up with a partner and the pants are really on fire, we have to get through that festering sore of omissions, obfuscations, half-truths, and fabrications that is the online dating profile.   continue reading …..

 

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