Husbands and secrets

Husband hidingEvelyn’s husband has been out of a job for eight months already. He holds the type of job in an industry where employees are required to have a complete physical check up (especially blood work) in order to be hired. Her husband has been hired three times, but continually loses the opportunities because he refuses to have his blood drawn. Evelyn is beside herself and doesn’t understand why he’s not stepping up to the plate. She asked him why he does not do it, and he says he doesn’t like getting blood drawn even though he did have a blood test done before they got married and for his previous job. She thinks he’s afraid. Meanwhile, finances are tight and they have one little boy and are expecting twins in three months. She’s asking what she can say to get him to go and do it. They need some income ASAP.

Answer:

Hmm .. I wonder what he is hiding. Afraid? I don’t think so. And even if he is, so what? I am afraid, too, and somehow I manage to go to my doctor every year to get my blood draw because it’s important to my health. I think he may be hiding something that the blood test will show; but what it is, I haven’t a clue (which is beside the point). Evelyn, you need to look him in the eye and tell him that he needs to put his concerns aside and start getting concerned about finding a job that he has been trained to do. Whatever he’s hiding needs to be later on his list in order for him to take care of his family. It is his moral obligation to do so. You will need to tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you expect him to rise to the occasion because a man is supposed to do everything he can to protect and provide for his family. Good luck.

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