This is one of the topics I have written in my book and it’s not only in marriage that this behavior happens but in new relationships as well. Many women I know, as soon as they start a new relationship, they disappear, they no longer get together with their girlfriends, they start doing what their guy of the moment wants and they don’t even notice that they are doing that. When their romantic relationship ends, then they come back to try to get the friendship they abandoned, started again. Some friends do get annoyed by this behavior.
Why Do Women Lose Themselves In Marriage?
Perhaps Eckhart Tolle said it best: “When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.”
And when it comes to losing touch with themselves, women seem to do that best, especially when it comes to relationships. (Although, true, Jesse James believes he lost himself while being married to “some Hollywood actress,” aka Sandra Bullock, but he appears to be a lone male voice.) That’s what I did; in one of my first Huffington Post blog posts I talked about how I had “given upparts of myself” in my marriage. But, why? It certainly was never asked or expected of me. No one told me to stop doing many of the things I enjoyed, but I did anyway.
Sadly, I’m not alone. There are literally dozens