Millionaire looking for a Barbie with a career. Alpha women need not apply

I was reading the nation’s newspapers online when I came upon the story of Mr. Greenfield, (in the picture) a millionaire securities trader from Long Island. He has brought a lawsuit against the matchmakers he hired to find him a love match because they all failed to do so. Even though for the past 12 years 6 different agencies have set him up with over 250 ladies, he contends that the agencies and matchmakers haven’t done enough to help him find the “woman” who meets his exacting standards: beautiful, thin, smart, Jewish, a sense of humor, with a career, and from New York — but not “an alpha woman.”

His basic complaint is that he paid top dollar for nothing. He has so far been set up once with a Knicks dancer (when he’s not the NYC type of guy), matched with “West Village girls” (who were too artsy), and had one girl where he said her “looks” were terrible.

The matchmakers have fired back saying he was hard to please because he was too picky. They would give him exactly what he wanted many times just for him to come back with some reason so minuscule because that person wasn’t perfect. Even the girl he deemed to have terrible “looks”, was, in reality, too good for him according to the matchmakers.

He went on a date with a Ms. Gordon who is in her early forties, is Jewish, attractive, thin like he wants, not an alpha woman, and has a job. In summary, she fits his requirements. She thought they connected well on their date. They both love to travel, he told her he wanted to take her to Paris and London, they talked about their Jewish heritage; but he never called back to follow up on their second date. She said she thought he might have been holding out for a better deal, but it was hard to accept that he was looking for someone 15 years younger than he was. It made her sad and depressed and it hurt her. She thought even though she  wasn’t in her 30’s, she was still closer to his age and could even pop out a kid if he wanted. It could be done.

Mr. Millionaire from Long Island needs a reality check. He sounds so narcissistic. From the 250 plus women he had a choice of, he couldn’t find one? What is the common denominator here? Sounds like it’s him. Sounds like those 250 plus women got lucky that he rejected them. It’s nice to know what we want when we’re buying a property (whatever that may be: a piece of land, a house, a car, etc.); however, when you’re looking for a partner to marry, having a life, or making children, the criteria should not be THAT rigid. Expecting perfection is a recipe for failure because we’re human beings and are, therefore, not perfect. In my view, the way he’s looking at this is not so much that he’s looking for a wife, but that he’s looking for some arm candy and another possession. Although he likes “smart,” no smart woman will want to stand for that.

I also think Mr. Millionaire needs to re-think his standards of beauty. If he takes into consideration that he’s average looking (I’m being nice, so don’t beat me now), perhaps he should give up a bit on the looks department; because when you’re looking for Barbie, you better look like Ken … and he is no Ken. Looking for his dream woman is unrealistic as his dream woman only exists in his dreams (and he has found that out already: 12 years, over 250 women, and he’s still alone). I think he’ll have a better chance to find the woman who will give him the house, the kids, the dog, and the white picket fence if he’ll go for an average looking woman who may be a teacher, a bank teller, or a personal assistant who lives in the suburbs and is not too young for his age. He needs to forget the career and exceptional looks altogether.

Good luck to him whatever he decides to do, but I have never seen a smart, young, beautiful, thin, Jewish woman with a career, living in Manhattan that is not a driven, alpha woman. That’s why she has a career.

The problem comes when we set out to look for perfection (and in this case, the perfect woman will also be looking for the perfect man). But to me, the crux of the matter in this case is that I hope the courts won’t recognize his lawsuit. If they do, I think this country has a much bigger problem than it knows.




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