Some women when in love, act like their brains are fried!!

Last Friday afternoon my friend invited me out to tea with 4 of her women friends. Christie has an abusive boyfriend who constantly harps about her weight (she’s not fat), argues about everything and embarrasses her in front of her friends. Diane has a fiancé who has been rough with her a few times – shook her, slapped her and pulled her hair. Leena has 2 kids and her current alcoholic boyfriend is mean to her kids and her ….. “but not all the time”.

I was almost choking on my pastry as I listened to these pathetic and desperate women talk about their loser boyfriends, telling us the “but I love him” excuse. I wanted to shake them and slap them myself as I was asking them “what’s wrong with you women?”.  My friend who invited me to the tea, asked me to write a post about love not being enough. I have done it in the past but I will talk about it today again. I told the ladies in question that I was going to use their real names today. Perhaps reading this post with their real names attached to the post about why love is not enough, they will have a epiphany. I’m not holding my breath.

It is pretty sad that in this day and age, women are supposed to be smarter than before.  That was one of the intentions when someone had the brigh idea to start the feminist movement in 1848, so women could be more assertive, tell it like it is, be discerning besides have equal rights as men.

Then we have these women, who are supposed to be and act smart but start walking  into all sorts of horrendous situations/problems because they think, that because they are in love, or they love some jerk, all their problems will go away and everything will be fine just because they are in love. They ignore physical mistreatments, psychological abuse just because “they’re in love”.

“Oh, but I love him” …. “I’m going to follow my heart” … I have heard that so many times from smart women that it is pretty sickening when they repeat this mantra one too many times.  Just because  you are in loooove, is that supposed to be more important than your brains? “Oh he pushes me, shoves me, pinches me … but it’s not all the time”. Is that supposed to be an excuse? If it is, is not that good. Any type of abuse is not OK. It is not acceptable.

Many times women take the “I love him” a little too far and do not want to see what’s wrong with their man.  “I love him” becomes more important than the grief from whatever situation they’re in and what is the fall out of their decision to stay with an abusive man, is going to impinge upon their lives and their future children’s.

Ladies, don’t let “I love him” become even more important than a bad situation.  You don’t want your family and friends looking into your future and wondering why you are volunteering to take this abuse for the rest of your life and don’t think like many women do “I was hoping this would change”. Hope is very powerful. Everybody’s hope doesn’t turn into truth or become reality.  Please be discerning and do not let your emotions get the better of you.  We have brains to actually think.  I beg you to please use this gift wisely.

 

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