The case of Monica Lewinsky … time for her to finally get a life!

Monica copyright MarkSeligerMonica Lewinsky has resurfaced this week, again. I wanted to write about this immediately; but I had to stifle myself because if I did write as soon as I read the excerpt of her article on Vanity Fair, all I would have done was start a rant that would go on and on. I wrote this post on Wednesday but had a few days to trim it down, otherwise it would be too long.

It has been almost 20 years and I’m still ticked off by this woman’s story. At the time when her so- called “friend,” Linda Tripp, betrayed her, the world found out that she was having an affair with President Clinton.  Once I heard the news, I remembered discussing it with my then husband and all we could think was that our very young daughter one day could have been in that same very vulnerable position: the big boss who’s older, more experienced, charismatic, making inappropriate goo-goo eyes at our daughter and she, a fresh faced, naive, immature, young woman, ready to take the world by her hands would fall prey to a man who is supposed to know better.

At the time, the press rung Ms. Lewinsky out to dry. We could not turn to a channel and not see the face of that young woman, fresh faced, huge smile, and lustrous hair. The press vilified this young woman. Even then President Clinton would not acknowledge his mistake and instead of calling Monica by her name, referred to her as “that woman.” What surprised me was not even did Gloria Steinem, Barbara Walters, or even Diane Sawyer come to this young woman’s rescue and publicly defend her. All the feminists went radio silent. She was barely 22 years old, a time when a young person’s brain is not even fully formed, and no one publically defended her by putting the blame where it should have lied: squarely on Mr. Clinton’s shoulders. He should have known better.

Instead of defending one of their own, the so-called “feminists” did what women usually do when a woman falters her steps: they came down hard on her. At one point ten of those so-called famous New York feminists (of whom were authors, television writers, magazine editors, fashion designers and a restaurateur), gathered together to discuss the salacious details of the story like a bunch of gossipy teenage girls. What is incredulous is that no one saw the man for what he was, which was a man who had the ultimate responsibility. She was HIS intern; therefore he was in a position of power as her boss and on top of that, he was the leader of the free world. Which young girl would have said NO? Instead of placing responsibility where it should have been, they vilified this girl while discussing why the President didn’t wear a condom, where were the stains, and yes, they would do him, too. They all sided with Clinton, publicly humiliated her, and slut shamed her, letting that young woman drown. Even Hillary Clinton called her names instead of placing her husband’s head between two frying pans and hitting him really hard. That was unacceptable but we all know why she blame Monica. It was the easy way out and if she din’t, she would have to make a decision about her marriage so like many women before her, it was easy to blame the other woman, in this case a wide eyed young woman.

To me, Maureen Dowd (The New York Times columnist) was the worst. In the beginning of the story she was defending Lewinsky; then she buckled under the pressure and started to join the others by throwing rocks at Lewinsky and writing obsessively about the case. As times passed, her articles became nastier and nastier. The woman was brutal. She ended up winning a Pulitzer Prize for the trash she wrote.

I think throughout the years Monica Lewinsky has shown great restraint and grace. She didn’t cash on her circumstances, which she could have. Her life has not been a bed of roses. Can you imagine her going on a date? We all have a past, and we all are not proud of something. However, we get to keep our secrets, while hers are known worldwide. Who knows if the experience has soured her forever about romantic relationships? Looking for a job… Can you imagine going to an interview and knowing that they “know” what you’ve done? Living day to day, hand to mouth,  borrowing money from relatives in order to live? I cannot imagine, and yet, she didn’t cash in on her fame.

Now at 40 years old, I’m glad she decided to come out and own what happened to her so she can take the power back. I hope she does stop thinking about the feelings of the Clintons and start looking after herself. I hope she writes a book. I hope she develops a line of lipstick, hair products, or anything where she can finally make some decent income. Why should she stay in the shadows forever so the powerful Clintons can go on about their lives as if nothing ever happened? It’s time for her to own her life and damn anybody else who won’t like it!

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