Is your man obsessed with porn?

I have received a few e-mails from the ladies about their men who love porn. I decided to answer all at once because there were too many to do so on an individual basis. Can a man’s sexual desire for his woman (even in a new relationship) decrease due to his constant viewing of porn?

Well, I have talked to different men who told me that while viewing some porn every now and then is normal, they prefer the real thing instead of fantasy. Even couples watch porn together in order to spice things up a bit. But it becomes a problem when he watches porn constantly, especially while in a relationship.

When a man watches porn consistently, it gets compulsive. There is a consistency and a persistence of self-satisfaction (aka masturbation) while chronically watching porn—this is a man who is not into giving and he’s not very comfortable with intimacy. When he prefers to take matters into his own hands (literally) instead of sharing himself with his woman, or being reciprocal, there is a problem.

Think about it: what kind of man, who has a perfectly real-life woman by his side, would prefer the fantasy of the screen or telephone? Not a man many women would like to have. And yet women stay in these kind of relationships, thinking “there must be something I can do about this”.

Reality check: There is not a damn thing she can do. This is his problem and when a man behaves neglectful in this way, it is hurtful and his woman feels rejected. One way we bond as a couple is by making love to each other and if your man is too busy with his porn, you need to go dating somewhere else and let him continue his love affair with his screen or telephone.

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