Women gold diggers? Nah … they’re just pragmatic!

I am tired of hearing men disparaging women and women doing the same by calling themselves and other ladies gold diggers. Last night a certain lady mentioned that “Ms. Sweet Cakes over there with the handsome man is a gold digger” and I happen to know the Ms. Sweet Cakes in question and I know she wants to get married and have a family.

This is the way I see it: we women are the ones with the uterus. We are the ones who carry life inside our bodies; thus it is our responsibility to protect our children, born and unborn.  Always be very pragmatic when looking for a man.  Look for a man that will be able to protect you and your future children.  Make sure he’ll be able to support a family before you jump on his band wagon and drive with him into the sunset to live happily ever after.

Making sure that he’ll be able to financially support a family is not being money hungry, a gold digger or being a princess. It’s being pragmatic and if he has a problem with that, he’s not the man for you. I will challenge any woman to tell me otherwise. However, I do respect a woman who thinks the opposite, that she can do all of that by herself, I don’t agree with her but I wouldn’t call her names, it’s her opinion and she’s entitled to it without being called any names.

Many years ago, there was a (behavioral) research published in the Lancet, it said that men who do what they can to protect and provide, feel better about themselves and will do whatever it takes to keep their women and their children safe. They noted that among the men in their research, it didn’t matter their financial situation – from the poorest to the financially stable, the high feelings of pride and accomplishment, knowing they were able to protect and provide for their family, was the same.

Women who do what it takes to take care and protect their children are honorable, noble, decent and courageous human beings in my eyes.

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